This past Sunday, I was very fortunate to witness my nephew being baptized. He’s ten, inquisitive (we call him the question man), sometimes naïve but other times, very deep and intuitive. He takes things at face value and simply believes in the truth. He decided he wanted to be baptized (for all the right reasons), and he was lucky enough to have his dad do the honors. We all thought it would be a simple process until his father gave a little speech just before dunking him in the water. I don’t remember all of his words but I do remember this: He quoted, “This is my son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased” (Matthew 3:17). This auntie cried like a baby.
It was a beautiful moment…one of those moments that touch you deeply, that don’t come along often. An incredible moment between father and son…and the big father, too.
It made me ponder the people who come into our lives. The fathers, the mothers, the siblings and friends. The world is a web of people, seemingly so far away from each other but then so close. My nephew (and niece) were adopted from China, from a world far away. I try to imagine what life would be like without them. I can’t. I try to imagine my sister and brother-in-law not being their parents. I can’t. Those four were put together by something so much bigger than you and me.
They may say one day, “I have the best mom and dad in the world.” To them, it’s true. My children may think it. Lots of people feel the same way about their own parents. You hear it over and over. My dad’s the best. My mother is the best mother ever. But what does that mean, and why do so many of us have the best?
I believe that many of us are blessed to have the best parent (husband, child) for us in our particular situation. Have you ever noticed how families have their own personalities? The way I parent my children may not be the best for another child or family. Each family is different, each is unique. So many of us are blessed to have the best – the best for us, for what we need, for who we are.
So there’s no reason to dismay – yes, there are many, many best daddy’s in the world. There are many, many best momma’s in the world. If we only look, we may find that for us, for our needs, for our personalities and desires, we have the best. The best friends, the best spouse, the best family. Some families may only have one parent, and that only amplifies the blessing you are to a child. (To those single parents, I think you should get a Mother’s Day and a Father’s Day gift every year – you deserve it.)
The catch is to acknowledge what you have, to appreciate it for what it is. I truly believe people are put into our lives for a reason. We may never understand all the reasons, but there’s a plan much bigger than I’ll ever be able to grasp working all around us.
Aren’t we lucky the world isn’t made up of only one best? Instead, we all get to experience that emotion, that feeling. When we’re truly blessed, we find ourselves with what is the best for us.
And I have.